
Directed by Tamara Jenkins
Written by Tamara Jenkins
2007 | 114 minutes | English
DVD
Laura Linney, Philip Seymour Hoffman, Philip Bosco, Peter Friedmann, Gbenga Akinnagbe, Cara Seymour, Debra Monk, David Zayas, Margot Martindale, Guy Boyd, Rosemary Murphy, Tonye Patano
What it’s about: Wendy Savage (Linney) and her brother Jon (Hoffman) were abandoned by their abusive father Lenny (Bosco) to an absent mother as children and haven’t spoken to the old man in a long time. But the woman he’s been living with dies and her family kicks him out of their house as he’s also experiencing a decline in health and the onset of dementia and it’s up to his estranged children to handle the situation. Neither is prepared: Wendy is working temp-jobs to fund herself as a playwright and is unhealthily invested in the affair she’s having with her married neighbor (Friedman). And Jon’s long-term girlfriend (Seymour) is moving back to Poland because he’s intimidated by marriage and is, instead, throwing himself into a mess of a book on Bertolt Brecht.
Reflections: I saw this around its release and I know I enjoyed it, but I remembered nothing about it. Watching it again almost twenty years later–now the same age as Jon in the film–it is a different beast. At several points, Wendy worries her play will come off as “middle-class whining,” and from an uncharitable point of view, the film is that: it’s a relatively low-stakes family drama about New York intellectual types–college professors, kinda pathetic adultery, a certain wash of middle-aged sentimentality. But Jenkins’s Oscar-nominated script is deft enough to breathe some life into cliches the characters themselves are fully aware of and touch a nerve that feels real.
She is aided greatly in this by the presence of Linney and Hoffman, both sinking their teeth into meaty performances (and both also award-nominated, her for an Oscar and him for a Golden Globe). They project an ease with each other that swings between affection and resentment in tiny ways from moment to moment and gives both characters a kind of weary dignity. While the movie leans mostly on the two of them, the supporting cast, in particular Bosco capturing Lenny’s anger fading into confusion and despair, also feels rich and natural. And the film’s visual and aural sensibility, moving from the artificial-feeling sunniness of Arizona to the cozy gloom of Buffalo, peppered with old-time pop songs and Stephen Trask’s minor-key main theme, create a vibe that supports the intimate smallness of the drama.
And what resonates with me now is exactly that smallness, the ordinariness of all of it. As Jon ungraciously shouts at Wendy in a nursing home parking lot, death comes for all of us and it’s often messy and gross when it does. Watching our parents die and being forced by that to reckon with our own mortality and accountability is a deeply broad human experience, and Jenkins is grappling it with an intelligence and honesty that resonates, even if one isn’t as much of a sucker for the campus-novel flavor of the particulars as I admittedly kind of am.








